Whatever happened to Discipline?

Whatever happened to Discipine?
 In recent decades, family life in western lands have changed dramatically. . At one time, Parents were in charge and children followed their lead. Now, in some households it seems to be the way around. For example, consider the following scenarios, all of which are based on typical situations.

• While at the store with his mother, a four - year -old boy reaches out for a toy. His mother tries to dissuade him, 'you have enough toys already, dont you?'. Too late, she realizes that she should not have ended on a question, 'But i want it' the boy whines. fearing a tantrum- his usual ploy - Mom gives in.
• A five - year- old girl interrupts her father as he is talking to another adult, ' i m bored', she announces, 'i want to go home'! Her father stops mid -sentence stoops down to his daughter and ask in a soothing voice, Just a few more minutes, sweetie- OK?
• once again, 12 - year - old James has been accused of shouting at his teacher. James father is upset- not at his son but at the teacher.'She's picking on you, he says to James. 'im going to report her to the school board!'

The preceding scenarios are imaginary, but they are hardly far fetched. the illustrate a real problem that exists in homes where parents tolerate children's rudeness, cave in to their demands, and rescue them from the consequences of their misconduct. It is increasing common to see parents relinquishing authority to young children, says the book THE NARCISSISM EPIDERMIC. 'Not that long ago, kids knew who the boss was- and it wasnt them.

Discipline that WORKS!

Be loving, consistent and reasonable

DONTS

• Dont exhaust yourself to give your child the best: let your children see that you have needs too. This will teach them to have consideration for others including you!
• Dont be overly critical on your children: at the same time base your praise on actual effort not empty praise.
• Dont let misbehavior go! Impose appropriate consequences for misbehavior. When administered in a loving manner, discipline will help your children learn to adjust their behavior.